A woman claimed in a now-viral article that her husband “threw away” his book collection because he “hated” it when she read.
Posting on Reddit’s “Am I The A ** hole” forum Friday with the username u / Wrong-Turn2020, the woman said she asked her husband to replace the books.
Already, the post has received over 13,000 upvotes and over 3,200 comments.
“We have just returned from [our] honeymoon two months ago and he’s complaining about books robbing us of our special time, especially at night, but I like to think I’m balancing my reading time, “the woman wrote.
She later added that her habit of reading made her husband feel “neglected” and “ignored”.
In an effort to prevent him from reading, the woman claimed that her husband would call her “grandmother” and say that she reminded him of an “old lady”.
However, his comments did not work. So he took things a step further.
“A week ago, I discovered that [he’d] gave my book collection and I was devastated, “she said.” Afterwards he defended himself by saying that he had done this for my good and for the sake of our marriage because I seemed to forget my priorities. “
He also suggested that she “invest” her time in an outdoor hobby that they could practice together.
When it comes to marriage, many experts recommend that couples spend time apart from each other to be with friends and pursue different interests.
“Aside from driving mad, spending time away from each other will give the relationship the space it needs to thrive. This is extremely problematic for couples when trying to satisfy all of their needs. needs by their partner, ”psychotherapist Crystal Bradshaw, LPC, said Martha Stewart Weddings.
“It’s just not realistic. Your partner can’t be everything to you, and you can’t be your partner everything,” she said.
Speaking to HuffPost, therapist Elisabeth LaMotte said that as long as couples make time for each other, having different hobbies can be healthy.
“As long as a couple prioritizes spending time together on a regular basis, it’s reasonable to pursue completely different interests,” she said.
“In fact, the ability to passionately pursue independent interests reflects a strong sense of individual identity on the part of both partners in the relationship. And a strong sense of self is conducive to a healthy level of intimacy,” a- she explained.
In response to her husband’s suggestion, u / Wrong-Turn2020 compiled a list of all the books her husband threw away and asked him to replace them within the week.
Her husband called her “childish”, which prompted her to ask Redditors: “[Am I the a**hole] to expect it to replace the books? “
Editors were quick to defend the woman’s claim, adding that she would likely have to rethink her marriage.
“NTA [not the a**hole]. It’s time to get an annulment or a divorce. He seems very controlling and it will only get worse, ”u / Complex-Guitar7097 said.
Over 22,000 Redditors voted u / Comples-Guitar7097’s comment in agreement.
“NTA. Throw out the husband and replace him with more books,” u / acetrainerjayce wrote.
“NTA — you’ve been married for 8 weeks and he got rid of something so important to you ?? RUN,” u / heishancell commented.
Redditor u / Likeomgitscrystal added, “NTA, but replacing the books won’t solve the real problem here. He’s a jerk.”